He said, She said
I wrote a pretty powerful email(in my opinion) about how I felt tonight. I wanted to let all of my emotion out. Which brings me to "he said, she said."
Most men think differently from women... so I've learned. They are thought to be unemotional.
Now, coming from a woman's stand point, someone who has to constantly talk to get her emotions out... or even to realize what the hell she IS feeling, this is kinda hard to deal with. Women react completely differently and want to talk talk talk talk until we talk no more. Men just want to ignore it and leave it alone until they can come up with a solution on their own, in their own time.
Us women want to chase them when this happens for fear that we will be rejected. We want to hunt them down to understand how they feel and what they think... so we smother them or constantly call, etc. This is the way we think it should be handled because that is how we deal with it... we like to talk. I've learned that you can't do that... it doesn't work that way. And it only makes them run farther away.
So, I wrote many emails, not for the sake of the other person... i know it sounds selfish and maybe it is, but i write for me. Just as I write this blog, I write to express my feelings and to just get them out... this way I can go on and not have that bottled up feeling. If I don't release those feelings, I will go insane and just lose it. So, I am learning different techniques on how to deal with all this mental/emotional shit. I will not bottle it up like most people do because I will only end up having to deal wtih it down the line.
So that my friends is why I blog. Not to have everyone in the world read it, but to release a lot of bullcrap.
Most men think differently from women... so I've learned. They are thought to be unemotional.
Now, coming from a woman's stand point, someone who has to constantly talk to get her emotions out... or even to realize what the hell she IS feeling, this is kinda hard to deal with. Women react completely differently and want to talk talk talk talk until we talk no more. Men just want to ignore it and leave it alone until they can come up with a solution on their own, in their own time.
Us women want to chase them when this happens for fear that we will be rejected. We want to hunt them down to understand how they feel and what they think... so we smother them or constantly call, etc. This is the way we think it should be handled because that is how we deal with it... we like to talk. I've learned that you can't do that... it doesn't work that way. And it only makes them run farther away.
So, I wrote many emails, not for the sake of the other person... i know it sounds selfish and maybe it is, but i write for me. Just as I write this blog, I write to express my feelings and to just get them out... this way I can go on and not have that bottled up feeling. If I don't release those feelings, I will go insane and just lose it. So, I am learning different techniques on how to deal with all this mental/emotional shit. I will not bottle it up like most people do because I will only end up having to deal wtih it down the line.
So that my friends is why I blog. Not to have everyone in the world read it, but to release a lot of bullcrap.
posted by Jenn & John at 2:21 AM
2 Comments:
I don't think that men are taught to be unemotional... I jut think that in some instances, and this is a cultural thing as well, some men are taught not to EXHIBIT emotion... it's not manly to do so. I do my damned best not to hold shit it in for the very reason that I know it'll come back and hurt me later.....
That being the case, I do my best thinking on paper... or on the computer... when shit is tough for me.. I write it... it's very therapeutic, and it's one hundred percent FOR ME. That is also why in Men are From Mars, women are from venus, Dr. Gray says that you should write down your thoughts... why? because it makes you really THINK about how you feel.. it helps you to figure it out, instead of being confused and staying confused. It's basically the same kind of process wherebye in therpay your therapist, (if they're good) ask you questions, really try and make you think about things, to help you figure it out. A good therapist does not really give you advice, but teaches you how to listen to yourself and figure out what's best for you....
Well... half tipsy and tired as shit.. time to stop blurbing....
AS
"poopedness" muah hahaha
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